Today is the last of our Social Etiquette posts. We have gone through the important questions of you wedding in the past few months, and here is a review; Thank You’s, The Negative Nancy, The Rehearsal Dinner, Bridesmaids, and Wedding Invitations
Today’s subject: Who Pays for What?
From Alli: “The Bride’s parents have traditionally been the ones footing the majority of the wedding bill but times are changing. While that is still the most common financial agreement for weddings, couples find themselves in all types of payment arrangements.
According to The Brides Book by Marsha Heckman (buy it HERE) it is customary for the Groom’s parents to host the rehearsal dinner. It is also customary for them to pay for the brides bouquet. If you want more information on who traditionally pays for what look HERE at what the Bridal Guide has to say.
These days some couples are tackling the whole bill themselves. This is not an easy thing to do. There are plenty of couples who work alongside their parents in paying for each step of the big production. Once again my biggest tip in this area is discussing it before hand. You don’t have to get every financial responsibility on paper and assigned to a payee, but you must address it. You can simply say, “Groom and I have been working on our wedding budget and wanted you to take a look at it to see if there was anything special you wanted to help with.” Obviously, this is only an appropriate statement for your parents, who more than likely have already expresses their interest in helping with payments. Allowing them to see the budget will help you both have a more realistic idea of what to expect throughout your engagement.
Looking for some extra budget tips? Take advantage of bridal show specials, watch discount sites like Groupon and Living Social for wedding and honeymoon deals and check out this list from The Frisky.”
Thank you Alli for sharing, you have been an amazing intern and we will miss you dearly. Good luck being a Newlywed!!