At the beginning of August, we, with the help of our awesome intern, brought you three social wedding etiquette issues (The Rehearsal Dinner, Bridesmaids, and Wedding Invitations). This week, we would like to present a look at a few more!
Today’s subject: The Negative Nancy
From Alli: “Weddings bring out all kinds of emotions in people. Most of the time they are joyful and supportive but there is always at least one person who isn’t giving as much encouragement as you had hoped. We call that person The Negative Nancy. It may be a bridesmaid or an aunt or even one of your parents. This person is putting a downer on all of your great ideas. This can be such a crushing feeling, so how does a bride or even an event host best handle The Negative Nancy?
Communication. Communication. Communication. If you have been following the previous Social Etiquette posts you know I put great value in this.
Find a comfortable time and space (when your emotions about the issue feel relaxed) and simply ask your nancy what’s wrong. Then explain how you are feeling. Chances are they do not even realize they are doing it. If they could understand how you’re feeling about their opinions, surly they will take a softer approach.
More likely than not, the people who you have asked to share this time with you love you dearly and only want it to be the best. The worst thing you could do is let the wound fester and become a bigger deal than you ever intended. This will lead to a blow out, that could be so easily avoided with the right communication.”